The Pain of Separation
Love is painful because it has separation in it; it wants to merge. Unless it becomes another being, it is separated, and separation is always painful; so love is painful. When we merge back into the Father, then there is no pain at all. Before that we have to go through that pain - we can’t help it. The more we feel the pull within, the more painful it becomes because we become more anxious, more anxious and more anxious to become one with him.
The more we love him, the more the feeling of becoming one with him is growing. We become more anxious to become one with him, so naturally it will become more painful. Its blessing is also there, peace is also there, happiness is also there in the presence of the beloved.
This is a very strange feeling. It is like the example of a lady delivering a child. She has to go through the pain of the delivery, but then she’s the happiest woman in the world after the child is born. She can’t avoid that pain; that’s a part of what she has to go through. Similarly, we have to go through that pain, but it is nothing compared to what we are going to achieve. Even when we feel the pain, would we like to get rid of that love? We would never want to get rid of that love.
Separation is painful. If anybody advises you to forget, what is the sense of that? You will never leave it. There is some satisfaction and pleasure within at the base of that pain. So it is a mixed feeling. The more we grow in love, the more separation we feel and the more anxious we are to become one with him.
Maharaj Charan Singh, Spiritual Perspectives, Vol. III